Goodbyes can be rough.
Goodbyes can also be amazing. You have that person who stays at your house way longer than is remotely acceptable, but no one in your house has the heart or courage to tell them, so you passively aggressively make comments about being tired and your early day the next day.
Everyone agrees it would be easier on everyone if you just asked them to leave because you’re tired, but easier said than done.
These goodbyes are amazing. You feel a sense of relief and joy because of it. Finally, you can relax, go plop yourself in bed and fall asleep. Never such sweet parting.
However, there are goodbyes on the other side of this. For instance, that same goodbye that you heard angels singing about when this person left might be the same goodbye that they were dreading for the last 4 hours. Knowing that they were going back to a home of people that were hostile and toxic. Knowing that the conversation and fun that they had at your house would almost certainly be gone the second they walked out.
This goodbye is almost unbearable.
Knowing that this was the highlight of your week/month/year.
There are also the times when both parties involved have the level of sorrow and emotion of the second goodbye. Neither one wants to see the other go. Or maybe there is a miscommunication and they both think the other wants to go but neither of them actually do.
This goodbye is a goodbye that lingers. You’re closing an account. There’s been work put into this. Transactions have been made, and now it’s being shut down. Maybe not forever, but for the indefinite future.
These are tough. After time, the feelings and memories start to become good thoughts in your mind, but when it’s fresh, all the good times often feel like painful memories because you know they’re in the past.
Don’t worry, there’s a quote for that!
“Don’t be sad that it ended, be happy it happened”
Easy to say, harder to do.
Closing accounts is hard. It almost always happens for a reason though. Understanding that you’ll get through the goodbye and back to normal. Life continues on.
Close the account and start working on the other accounts until it needs to be opened again.