You’ve been arranging this event for a week now. You cleared some things from your schedule to make it work. It’s early in the morning. In the back of your head, you regret saying you would do this, but you and your friend wanted to keep each other accountable to do it, so here you are.
The clock rolls around. 5:30 am. “Interesting. They must be a little bit late. No problem.”
The clock hits 5:40 and you start to get a little concerned. “Hmm, I wonder why they’re so late.”
5:46. Okay. I waited 15 minutes and they’re still not here. If they don’t show up by 5:50 I’m going to call them.
5:51, your phone is ringing as soon as the clock hits the 1 for 51.
They answer after the 4th ring “Um, helllo..”
You ask where they are. They question you and say, oh sorry, I stayed up late last night and didn’t think it would be wise to get up super early the morning after.
No warning. Not really an apology. Just a “kind of a “whoops. That happened.”
These are the people that are extremely hard to plan things with because they’ll never give you a straight answer. “Yeah, that sounds fun. Maybe I could go.” Well, thanks. That just told me everything I need to know to make a great plan.
Somehow, they’re also often very wise if you get into a deep conversation with them. It can be hard to get to that level, but when you do, they have a lot of insight about things you might not have thought of.