Sometimes it’s hard to find the balance between grace and accountability.
You want to be able to help others. You want to be able to give them another try no matter how many times they may fail, and sometimes that is what you should do. But sometimes, you have to realize that your so-called “grace” isn’t grace at all. It’s only hurting.
Sometimes, the best grace you can show someone is to force them to do something uncomfortable. Or to kick them out of something they enjoy if they’re not learning from their mistakes.
It’s hard sometimes to know when to do this, but we’re not only hurting ourselves, but also the people we’re with when we don’t lay some things down with strict consequences for not following through.