As I’ve gotten older, I’ve found it’s more and more difficult to form deep, lasting friendships.
Lots of things play into this, but maybe one of the biggest reasons is because unlike the school years where you have a ton of time and ability to live life with friends and experience many settings with them, as you get older and tend to have more full-time work, this time is significantly decreased.
Along the same lines, the fact of the matter is sometimes people just grow in different directions. It’s not a bad thing on either side (necessarily) it just means you’ve changed in ways that make you less and less compatible.
When you’re growing with people and in the same environment as others in school, you can still grow apart from people no doubt, but the reaches of that difference is much smaller than when you’re older. You’re much more dependant on what parents decide rather than your own longings at a young age.
Two of the places I have lived in the last three years, some of my best friends were couples who had been married in the last 3 years. An odd bunch to connect with, but I found their take on life to be much needed.
They’re in a weird stage where it seems like they must have all the wisdom because they may only be 2 years older than you, but somehow they have a family and that’s insane.
I’ve realized how important these friendships have been for me, and I highly encourage you when looking for friends in a new place, think outside the box. Don’t only look for the people who are your same age with the same interests. There’s so much to be learned from others in different stages of life and we don’t take advantage of that nearly enough