I may have already written a blog post about this, but going with the flow of the post, I’m sure no one cares anyway, so here it is again.
People can be categorized into two groups:
- The people who pay attention to what they wear each Sunday to church and make sure to switch it from week-to-week
- The people who wear the same clothes to church every week because obviously, that’s what they look best in.
This definitely sums up every kind of person. No other kind of people at all. Just these two.
Okay, so that’s ridiculous but it helps me prove my point so go off.
I’m the kind of person who makes sure that I wear a different shirt for work each day, really more for practical reasons, but a little because I don’t want people to think I only have two shirts.
What I don’t think about is the fact that my co-workers could have worn the same shirt every day since I started working over two months ago and I probably still wouldn’t realize. That’s because I’m so focused on me that I don’t pay attention to others most of the time.
Others, most of the time, do the same thing.
Even when you have a crush on someone you often don’t notice things about them because they are so focused on how you are being perceived. You think “oh no. I hope they don’t notice that I did this awkward thing with my hand.” “Yikes. Did they see the stain on my shirt?”
No one’s looking at you to see all of your flaws…well, that’s not true. But in general, people are much more concerned about themselves to think of you at all, let alone have bad thoughts about you.
Getting this concept through your head is important in all areas of life, but it is especially beneficial in the world of business. When you realize no one cares about you, they only care about the “WIFM” (what’s in it for me).
If you can understand that people don’t care about you and only care about you enough to get something that they value, that’s when you’re going to see the success.
Even going back to the crush analogy, that’s not really a caring about someone. That’s usually a “I like the way you make ME feel” kind of thing.
There is a deeper love that stems from an actual desire to see others succeed instead of your own prosperity. Something that is very difficult to find, but when found, that person is irreplaceable.
Stop acting like people hate you. People don’t care about you.